In order to really have a good time with my subbies and generate multiple orgasms, I want to decrease the refractory period- that pesky period between orgasm and their next erection. And just so you know- it’s not just men who have a refractory period- all humans do. It’s just part the human sexual experience- but that doesn’t mean we can’t play with it a bit. And luckily for the ladies, our refractory periods are much shorter than our masculine counterparts. So, what’s really happening during the refractory period? Well according to Male Excel, in an article entitled “What Exactly Is the Refractory Period, And Can You Minimize It?“, the release of our feel-good hormones like serotonin and oxytocin block the nerves of the penis from experiencing another erection. But let’s get to the good stuff- how do we make this period as short as possible, so I can play cock control games with my boy toy once again?

What Supports Multiple Orgasms & Decreasing the Refractory Period?

Testosterone

Testosterone, which aids erections, can also reduce post orgasm. Men high in testosterone are likely to have a shorter refractory time, so balancing your hormones could help, especially as we age. Age does tend to influence the refractory period in a negative manner, and our hormones can become unbalanced with age. I have a girlfriend who tests her hormones and she is actually on testosterone because her levels are low. She loves it and says she has so much more energy overall now that she takes it, so there are more health benefits than just a shorter refractory period.

Libido/Arousal Levels

People with higher sex drives recover more easily, as well as people who are very aroused. Many times when people are playing with me genuinely become surprised at the shortening of their typical refractory period, but heres the thing: I make literal fantasies come true. Now I am vain as fuck, thats true, but even I dont think its simply because I am a sex goddess (though I am)- its because people are able to stop pretending and fulfill their authentic sexual fantasies with me. They dont have to pretend, they can be soft and allow the parts of them they hide from others be witnessed. And that is wildly sexually exciting to most, so they are more excited, more responsive, and more aroused- all of which leads to a shorter refractory period.

Physical Health

Your general physical health can greatly impact your refractory period, especially your heart health. Staying fit and healthy is one of the best ways you can shorten the refractory period. Anything you can do to support your heart health and cardiovascular system is good to shorten the refractory period. Ensure you are eating well, that you are well hydrated, and that you exercise- all these factors can shorten or lengthen the refractory time. Additionally, drinking alcohol is a great way to lengthen your refractory time, as well as give you some performance issues.

Mental Health

Just as we see with physical health, our mental health can impact our libido. Not only do many of the medications people may take to control the symptoms of anxiety and depression- or any other number of conditions people face- the actual neurochemicals associated with them can also inhibit erections. Stress management, mindfulness techniques, meditation, somatic techniques to drop you into your body to process anxiety- all these are excellent tools for reducing the refractory period. After sex, some people can experience post sex blues- people report feelings of anxiety, guilt, shame, etc that can really negatively impact their mood- and for sure impacts their ability to experience arousal. Having an arsenal of tools that you can use to combat the post nut blues can really help- from positive self talk to affirmations to breathing exercises and more. Using these tools will support both your mood and your ability to shorten the refractory period.

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) Meds

Now of course if you are having problems with a really long or intrusive refractory period, you can explore ED meds with your doctor. Though there is no medication specifically prescribed to shorten the refractory period, that is a side effect noted by many people who take them.

Non-Ejaculatory Multiple Orgasms (NEMO)

By squeezing your pelvic muscles, you can prevent the release of semen. The orgasm actually occurs before the release of semen, and if you work your pelvic muscles, and with some practice, you can have multiple orgasms in a row with NO refractory period.

Prostate Orgasms

You can have multiple orgasms with prostate orgasms, as it happens. The orgasms tend to be more intense, stronger, and more frequent than a penile orgasm… which sounds fun, right? But you don’t have to listen to little old me- hear it directly from the men who have experienced prostate milking (CLICK HERE).

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