Cockteasing… Heaven or Hell? You decide. I am just here to lay out the facts.

Cockteasing by the Numbers

The notion of a cockteaser is undeniably a feminine energy, yes, but every single individual carries traits of both the feminine and the masculine. I bring this up because there was a study done on sensual teasing with researchers at the University of Texas & University of New Brunswick surveyed 742 undergraduates regarding sexual teasing, defined as presenting someone with the possibility of sex and then withdrawing it, and here are the results:

• 60% of both sexes admitted to being teased by someone else
• 64% of women had consciously engaged in sexual teasing
• 43% of men had consciously engaged in sexual teasing

 

Reasons for Cockteasing & Sensual Teasing: Differences with the Sexes

As far as the reasons, they were a bit different for the sexes.

Women indicated they engaged in cockteasing because they were motivated by wanting to feel sexy and desirable, to be powerful and in control, but also did not want to appear “easy”. Real quick, because I want you guys to fucking GET THIS: do you see how the patriarchy has perpetuated this. You have withheld power from women for centuries, so of course they seek out areas that they can still have a little power AND the patriarchy made is shameful for women to act on their sexual desires. So yes, enter cock teasing. The math is quite simple here, fellas.

Now men were more likely to say that they wanted to turn themselves on, wanted to see how far they could go, confessed they did it on a dare or bet, or simply wanted a good story to tell their friends.

Recipients of teasing had a mixed bag of reactions too:

• 1/3 of the targets were positive and laughing about their experiences
• 1/3 remained fairly indifferent
• 15% ignored the teasing
• and the remaining 15% got salty as fuck LOL

 

 

 

 

Cockteasing & Femdom

In terms of power exchange expressed within a BDSM dynamic, there is a lot to be gained by taking control of his cock, his orgasms, his pleasure, his stroking. After all, women are natural cock teases. And there is so much yumminess in the unpredictability and excitement associated with a known cock tease- it’s like when we enter one of those will they/wont they relationships in TV. The edge of your seat anticipation of it all, you know? But let’s break this down a bit.

 

Ownership

I Own Your Cock, subby boy.
The concept of ownership is such a fundamental part of power exchange, and ownership over one’s body, and for men, their COCK- their most valued (some say overvalued) possession. Owning the cock, and their pleasure, right? Controlling it. As a women, I would also say that it satisfies a deep curiosity that women feel regarding cock ownership. Having your cock and your pleasure satisfies a deep need for control and power for me.

 

 

Revenge

It’s such a fundamental right, as a human being, to control our own bodies- and of fucking course I love the thought of making the boys experience the type of violation to that human right that girls experience all the time. Taking someone’s right to control their body is an act of dehumanization, but before you judge me too harshly, know that the people I dehumanize fucking beg for it, love it, crave it and need it. I don’t walk up to random strangers and set out to dehumanize them- I simply avail my very unique skill set to satiate the very unique needs of both of us, or all of us as the case may be. What was that Al Pacino line: “I’m a humanist”, darling. A women for the people, practically.

 

Training

Now there are actually two forms of training I am referring to here: submissive training & endurance/performance training.

• Submissive training: This is simply done as an exercise to acclimate a submissive regarding surrender, obedience, and servitude. Its a particularly effective way to train a new subby boy or slave because they have been accustomed to having sovereignty over their body. Surrendering control actively erodes that sovereignty as well as assure near constant reinforcement. You know how frequently men think of their cocks, right? Pretty much all the time, and once an honorable subby boy or slave surrenders control over their cock and all associated pleasure, you know that your control over them will be asserting over and over and over again as they are made to quell their own desires and needs in favor of mine. I very much follow the work smarter not harder route and this one simple rule delivers some bang for its buck, you know?

 

• Endurance training & performance: Now this form of training can actually be utilized by any man, not just a submissive man or sissy girl. We all know that practice makes perfect and if you work to extend the amount of time before cumming consistently, you can be reasonably sure of getting some positive results from that. So, this is something that can be used to extend your own pleasure, improve your performance and to please the ladies. And I think that one of the reasons that this level of playing is so popular is that its effective, fun and sexy when you are playing together. Plus, a lot of strokers genuinely enjoy improving their performance in bed for vanity, to improve relationships and God forbid please his fucking woman better, yes? For this reason, I do feel like the work I do with strokers genuinely helps womankind, you know? And to a lesser degree, mankind too. I guess. *shrugs*

 

 

Motivation

Cockteasing and denial is a fantastic way to motivate a lazy or naughty slave boy. They are soooo motivated by their own selfish pleasure that using that against them becomes both easy and effective. By the way, I realize we have not gotten into denial at all, and will probably continue this discussion next week to jump into the denial, ruined orgasms, edging and gooning as well as discussing some fun ways to play. A subby will agree to work on anything in order to touch his worthless cockmeat, and what I like to do is weaponize that for my own purposes and amusement.

 

 

Sensation play and creativity

So a huge reason that the strokers enjoy cock teasing and surrendering control is the rewards of that can be wonderful, as I guide you to experience new sensations, new strategies and techniques that bring about the most intense and orgasmic experiences of your life. And I would say this regarding any type of stroking play between consenting adults- not just femdom. Together we can intensify and expand each other’s sexual experiences in a way that is greater than what we can respectively do alone. Its a human connection, an experience we both participate in, which I think satisfies on more than just a physical level- we are meant to have sensual, sexy, intense, wild, orgasmic experiences with one another on an emotional, mental, and spiritual level as well. Creative cockteasing is a fantastic way to get both of our juices flowing.

 

 

 

Punishment

Now, I’ll get into this more with denial, but even edging and delay can be a great way to punish a naughty subby. Truthfully, sometimes mercy after a punishment can tie that slave even closer to you, so humbled and deeply grateful they are for your forgiveness. Depending on the circumstances, you can add in public humiliation, cock and ball torture or other pain play, and cum eating- whatever. Honestly, a man never feels more humbled, more punished or shamed, then after he cums, and when coupled cock control and surrender, it can be an excellent time for a little reinforcement.

 

 

Personal Gratification

Finally, not at all in the least, I love to cock tease because I adore watching men whimper and groan and mewl for me in desperate arousal, begging me for relief. Not only does it make me feel powerful, it makes my fucking panties soaked, you know? This includes showing off a slave who is particular obedient or impressive in some way, someone who knows how to put on a good show. I will include in this category the personal gratification of said stroker, who likely loves public humiliation (as do most of the strokers I work with, though certainly not all), who enjoys exhibitionism and being watched. So basically, a little something for everyone in the gratification department. Personally, I do find a lot of pleasure in giving pleasure as well- I love to pour love, affection, and sexy time into my sweet subbies and sissies, and bestowing pleasure on them is part of that. I control your pleasure, but I also damned well control your pain, yes?

 

 

 

 

Your Assignment, Should You Chose to Take It:

I want to know which of these really great reasons listed here you find the sexiest in real life! Which kind of cockteaser brings you to your knees, gentlemen? Which lean in do you find absolutely undeniable- do you like the sweet pleasure seeking cockteasers, or do you offer yourself up as a proxy for some good old fashioned revenge?

AND… let me know, dear reader, whether or not you find cockteasing utterly heavenly or cruelly hellish?

 

 

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